Nadav Spiegelman

Boys & Sex

Author
Peggy Orenstein
My last highlight
2021-03-01
Number of highlights
9

My Highlights

Intentional searches started, for most, somewhere between sixth and eighth grade—usually before the boys had masturbated or were able to ejaculate.
Over time—and here’s where this generation is unique—most of the boys learned masturbation entirely in tandem with porn, yoking it to their cycle of desire, arousal, and release.
media scripts influence real-life emotions and behavior, even when we think they don’t.
Uncommitted sex in college is certainly nothing new. The real shift, then, is not “hookups” but hookup culture: the idea that casual sex is no longer an exception, but that physical intimacy is expected to be the precursor to emotional intimacy rather than its product.
According to sociologist Lisa Wade’s research, partners are expected to be less friendly after a hookup than they were before, at least for a while, as the last step toward affirming that requisite meaninglessness.
gay men now earn on average 10 percent more than straight men with similar education, experience, and job profiles.
(the largest survey ever conducted found that only 37 percent of gay or bisexual American men reported anal intercourse in their last partnered encounter).
Only 40 percent of African American men graduate from predominantly white four-year colleges within six years of matriculating.
while girls I’d met often sought more intimacy, trust, and safety in their personal relationships after a nonconsensual encounter, boys did the opposite, sometimes to the point of hostility toward women.