The Erotic Mind
- Jack Morin
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To objectify is also to externalize, to recognize the desired one as the other—that is, to see clearly that he or she is outside oneself. This quality of otherness is absolutely essential for attraction.
I call exuberance and satisfaction the response emotions because they are the rewards of high arousal, not the cause.
Neither measurable nor directly observable, desire is a totally subjective state combining biochemical influences, memories of past sex, visualizations of future possibilities, and a predilection for attending to and interpreting everyday events in an erotic way.
It is crucial to acknowledge that closeness and sexual desire are not one and the same, but rather two separate, yet interacting experiences.
accept and value your partner’s perceptions of you.